Ungoverned, not ungrateful.
You show up to the family function. You say the right things. You take the job that photographs well in a WhatsApp group.
And there is a part of you that none of it touches.
Not because you are angry. Not because you are ungrateful — you love these people, and you would do it again. But somewhere under the good behaviour, there is a version of you that never asked anyone’s permission to exist.
UNGOVN is for that part.
Not a rebellion. A jurisdiction.